Discussion about this post

User's avatar
April's avatar

Yikes! That is a truly horrible date but I'm not surprised either. I am a serious Zionist and I'm not Jewish, with a boring non-Jewish sounding name and I look like the person of Scottish ancestry I am. I've been writing in support of Israel and against antisemitism since shortly after October 7 and have been a strong supporter of Israel all my life. I find dating or even making local friends pretty well impossible. Since I'm not Jewish people say whatever horrible thing comes into their heads around me, and ask me what's wrong with me that I care so much about Israel when I'm not Jewish. Because I care about Western civilization and don't want to live under radical Islamic rule, which is coming for all of us? Look at Europe... Anyway, what's worse is that the Jewish men I've started talking with have invariably ended up being very wishy washy on Israel and accusing me of being too far to the Right. They see "nuance" - I really don't. Then I get lectured about how I don't know anything because I didn't grow up Jewish and I have never been to Israel. I actually think that not being Jewish has insulated me from the weird guilt that liberal Jews seem to carry around about "Palestinians." I even started to explore converting, as I am more religiously Jewish (grew up Christian, parents both Biblical scholars, my father, of blessed memory, taught Hebrew and took his college classes to Israel), but I was going to a Reform synagogue that spent more time bashing Trump than praying for our hostages, so I stopped going. The people were nice, but I can feel politically out of place in my keffiyeh wearing white people neighborhood if I want that. Anyway, I'm probably too old for you and I'm on the opposite coast, but single and a Zionist, and a huge fan of Future of Jewish! Oh, and my favorite thing to make is an Israeli salad too. I eat it every day.

Expand full comment
shoshanna's avatar

Dear Joshua, I am sorry that you had those experiences - but as someone who was raised in the USA and moved to Israel in 1971, I am familiar with antisemitism (which was then more subtle) long before 10/7.2023. I am going to sound like a Jewish grandmother (which I am) and the mother of two "middle aged" sons. I know you did not ask my advice - but as your "pretend" Jewish grandmother of the moment - I will give you some advice anyway... there are plenty of Jewish young women in the US who come from Sefardic, /Mizrachi and Ashkenazi, families, even daughters of Israelis, who know Hebrew and they are gorgeous. Why not date a young lady who shares your values - is actually Jewish, can open a siddur and sing Adon Olam - raised in a Zionist home and knows how to cook? These days many Jewish girls even look like Gal Gadot :-) You may not now, but down the road you may remember my words and thank me for my unsolicited advice. Shalom and happy dating. Safta shoshanna

Expand full comment
48 more comments...

No posts